Hi lovelies. Well Christmas is fast approaching and amongst all the joy and celebration I always think the end of the calendar year brings a good time for reflection. Whilst in many ways it’s been a great year for the Cole family and hopefully for yourselves too, there has undoubtably been much trouble and sadness in the world. I think everyone is feeling the strain of recent events as well as a sense of sadness over the atrocities that occurred in Paris and other parts of the world. With all of this, it’s easy to feel a sense of helplessness and fragility. As a highly sensitive person I have certainly been affected by this. To add to these feelings I had some bad news earlier this week. A friend’s husband passed away very suddenly at the beginning of the week. He had been in good health and young. He leaves behind not only his new wife of six months but also two young children under the age of three. The sense of grief this has caused for, not only his family but all of their friends is immense and as we all prepare to rally round to support our friend in the coming months and years the overwhelming sense is one of unfairness. The thing about grief is that time is the best healer. I’m certain our friend and her family will never stop feeling this loss but I can only hope the grief will change every day and eventually become bearable again. One thing this terrible event has brought home to me is how important family and friendship are during times of trouble and particularly the importance of friendship between women. There is something very primal about women coming together to help and support each other and something deeply healing about feminine energy. I guess what makes this all so poignant is the fact that we met these friends only four years ago through anti-natal classes. We shared in the excitement of preparing to welcome our children as well as fear of what may lie ahead! We shared our joy when our little ones were born and we have supported each other through sleepless nights, vomiting children and many conversations about various intimate body parts! Now we all share the sadness and sense of loss with our friend and her beautiful children. Whilst we have all shared many a tearful conversation over the past few days we have become acutely aware of how incredibly lucky we are to have each other and how, whilst we would probably never have become friends if it weren’t for our children, we now firmly believe we will be friends for life and we embark upon the next difficult few months standing together in support.
You may well ask why I’m telling you all this and I do apologise if I’ve brought you down but other than a bit of venting I do also have a point! These tragic events have led me to indulge in a little reflection and whilst hopefully nothing awful has happened to you or anyone you know recently, Christmas may be a good time to stop and gather your thoughts. These events have caused me to take a good look at my life and try to decide what is really important to me and my family. Whilst I believe it is important to follow your dreams, I’ve never seen the sense in working so hard to achieve something that it makes you miserable, just so you can eventually have a “good quality of life” sometime in the future! It is completely possible to live a fulfilling life without monetary wealth and fortune. Some people work so hard to try to achieve this type of wealth that they crash and burn before they can enjoy the fruits of their labour. Whilst it is important to be able to put food on the table and clothes on backs, spiritual wealth and fulfilment is equally if not more important than material possessions. It is for this reason that I have decided to take a little time off from blogging for the remainder of this month. This is so that I can continue my reflection and take time to look after my family and indulge in activities that make me happy, healthy and content. I plan to meditate, practice yoga and Pilates, have Reiki, eat food that nourishes me and read books which inspire and inform me. I’ve taken a step back from Twitter and stopped watching the news temporarily to limit my exposure to negative input. You can still find me on Instagram as I mostly find it positive and inspiring and I will still be posting from time to time on my Fashionably Balanced account. I wish you all a wonderful Christmas if you celebrate it and all of you a happy, healthy and peaceful December and I look forward to returning to the blog in the New Year refreshed and with some wonderful and exciting posts for you.
With love and light