But the year-old says it's also the quickest way to help her relax and "focus completely on the present moment". There are many reasons people have sex even when they don't feel like it — and the consequences can be good and bad, depending on why you're doing it, explains sexologist Kassandra Mourikis. Sexual coercion involves behaviour that is not always criminal, but is usually abusive in some way. For help you can contact RESPECT , the national body for supporting people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse.

Sex positivity is a great thing. While there are many reasons people choose to have sex pleasure, pleasing others, intimacy, stress relief, escape, or self-validation , there are plenty of other ways to meet these reasons without having sex. More importantly, being purely and wholly disinterested in sexual activity is a choice that needs to be respected. So, in a world that oversimplifies sex, it may be helpful to understand what never having sex really means and how to explain it to others.

H as your sex life gone stale? Between kids, work, the economy and other pressures, steamy sex may seem like a fantasy. Are you ready to turn up the heat again?